Sex Tips for Women
In a relationship, good sex is sex that leaves both of you fulfilled, relaxed and wanting to do it again some time soon – no matter how you get there. It should be simple, but more often than not, it isn’t!
How to Make Good Sex Happen
Most sex tips for women in relationships relate to keeping things exciting and new, and to the importance of good communication. We’ve heard it before, but the problem is that these things aren’t easy to put into practice.
Routine
It just isn’t easy to stop doing things the way you always have, whether this relates to what you eat, what time you make it to bed each night, how you spend your money or how you and your partner have sex.
Good sex – the kind you remember – is about anticipation and surprise, as much as it is about physical technique. If you and your partner only ever have sex in the same place, at the same time and using the same moves, sex can begin to feel like just a formal set of motions. If you can’t remember the last time the two of you had sex although you’re pretty certain it was less than three months ago, this is probably the stage you’re at! Sometimes, the next stage is not bothering to have sex at all, or the end of a relationship.
Breaking a long-standing routine takes initiative and sometimes a good bit of courage – whether it’s with someone you’ve been seeing for a few months or with your husband after years of marriage.
For sex tips for women interested in spicing things up in their relationships, see:
Sex and Communication
Many of us are fine about having intimate sex with our partners but terrified at the thought of actually talking to them about it. Generally though, one of the most important sex tips for women is that the more you talk to your partner about sex, the easier it gets.
See myths about female sexuality for some of the added reasons why it’s important for women to communicate honestly with their male partners.
The best approach is to talk to your partner about sex often, at times when both of you are most at ease – for example, after you’ve had a good laugh about something or after you’ve just done something together that’s physically strenuous. Just after sex isn’t the best time. It’s too difficult then to resist the temptation of doing a “post-mortem” – and focusing on every detail of what went wrong can kill your partner’s confidence and make sex seem like a test rather than an act of intimacy.
The aim of communicating with your partner about sex shouldn’t be just about perfecting physical technique so that you can both get from foreplay to orgasm in the least time possible. It’s also about learning to relax and be honest with each other, which is what leads to intimacy of the kind that can continue to grow and be satisfying.
Exercise as a Sex Tip for Women
It’s not like we want to be told yet another reason why it’s important to exercise regularly! However, studies confirm that people who exercise routinely have better sex, and more of it.
It’s not only about getting fit and lean. Rather, exercising regularly ensures that you’re less lethargic and stressed, more aware of your physical self and much more likely to be interested in having sex. Exercising is also good for your confidence, no matter what your shape or size.